Tuesday, January 17, 2012

a fine, fine line


The Comment:
I want to make sure I am guarding my heart but not having walls up. There may be a prospect and I want to make sure that I'm not being "too cautious" like I am frequently told.’

Ohhh, guys…and the balance between guarding our hearts and also letting them in.  That's just what it is—finding balance.  

Mostly, I think we're going to get hurt no matter who we let into our lives.  It’s just a part of the process... let people in, risk getting hurt (or... really, you’re guaranteed to be hurt).  It happens with any relationship or friendship.   There's just often an additional heartbreak that comes with guys.

I guess I think you can live life two different ways—one where you are super cautious and scared of letting people in…and then it's easy to define your life by loneliness and what-ifs.  OR... you put yourself out there and you let people in…and then it's easy to define your life by the ways people have hurt you or betrayed you.  Both have advantages and disadvantages and ULTIMATELY—I simply think we are called to love people.  

I don't necessarily think there's any sort of gender barrier applied to loving others and I tend to think that's simply this thing society (and Christian culture, to some degree) has placed on us.  Can we be wise in our decisions and the ways we engage our hearts with people/men... yes.  But, don't run from it.  Let people be imperfect (which means that they will hurt you)... and choose to love them anyway.  

It's better.  
It’s worth it.

Take a risk.

(but don't be crazy in the process)  

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