tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3237954847634331929.post5066540101702260104..comments2023-10-17T02:30:15.878-07:00Comments on always second chances: Physical Attractiondebbealhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03738810557777390429noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3237954847634331929.post-25459135438716706352015-06-07T14:42:17.994-07:002015-06-07T14:42:17.994-07:00I agree with both authors except for one point- Br...I agree with both authors except for one point- Bryn says "e truth is that God created sex and sex inherently involves arousal which is physically (not emotionally or mentally) created by attraction". For men it may primarily involve the physical however for ladies to be aroused we NEED to feel emotionally and mentally connected. An abused woman for example would not want to sleep with him because of his body looks Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3237954847634331929.post-64881718191794640522014-01-12T00:41:14.023-08:002014-01-12T00:41:14.023-08:00I trully think guys more so let society tell them ...I trully think guys more so let society tell them who they should be attracted to so for e.g the guy is hot and he attracted to a fat girl but he wouldnt date her because society tells him he should be attracted to the halle berry's of the world (in some cases) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06549961254060060895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3237954847634331929.post-67041984333268923832013-06-26T10:00:48.614-07:002013-06-26T10:00:48.614-07:00In one of my classes last semester we talked about...In one of my classes last semester we talked about porn for a couple days from a "biblical ethical" POV. One woman theologian stated, "It used to be that a woman had something to offer a man. It was a big thing to see a real woman naked. Now, it's just bad porn." i think she was on to something- there's this standard for beauty and attractiveness we've all been fed- but the truth is no one is there. So mostly, when we caution men and women to be weary of basing a relationship on whether you're attracted to someone, it's addressing the lie that someone must be 'beautiful' by society's standard in order for you to be happily married to them. And I think Debbie has a point in saying that women can become attracted to someone over time. The truth is- so can men. Because Lord knows there have been men who entered arranged marriages with women who weren't their "type"... I'm not bashing people who are married to people they find attractive. I'm just saying, maybe we're not as limited in our attraction as we think.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3237954847634331929.post-11882792157653775892013-06-25T10:07:20.391-07:002013-06-25T10:07:20.391-07:00As a married gal, here are my two cents...the othe...As a married gal, here are my two cents...the other stuff does "matter more", but it sure does make life better when you are madly attracted to your lover! I think physical attraction is a huge component to the married life - and it honors your spouse when you do things like wear things they find attractive, do your hair they way they like, etc, and when they do similar things for you. I think the physical side can be a beautiful expression of your love and as Christian women I think we down-play it in dating and then struggle with it in marriage. Its a beautiful thing to be madly attracted to your spouse, and to also be attractive to him. (I know there's an unhealthy side to this if you take it too far, but in its pure form I think its really beautiful). I mean, if that guy's gonna be looking back at you in everything from your own bed to every cherished photo...why not try for a man you like looking at? :) Stacie Saenzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02315686714962476828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3237954847634331929.post-70142424881450674722013-06-24T20:50:43.524-07:002013-06-24T20:50:43.524-07:00Sorry, not *(or she)*. misprint. Sorry, not *(or she)*. misprint. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3237954847634331929.post-90329053133059415732013-06-24T20:49:49.377-07:002013-06-24T20:49:49.377-07:00I think this is a really important subject to talk...I think this is a really important subject to talk about and discuss! I agree that our society puts so much weight on the idea of physical attraction that it is hard to discern what is healthy and what isn't as a Believer. My statement about this is that I can definitely say that I am attracted to someone who is obviously in shape and athletic, but my reasoning behind this is that it shows that this person is seeking to keep their Temple healthy. When I see overall good physical condition (fitness, hair, etc.) it shows me that this person desires to honor the Lord in not letting the Temple in which He (or she) has chosen to dwell in fall into disrepair. That is huge, in my opinion. We need to be in good physical condition so that we are prepared to do anything that the Lord may ask us to do, whether it be just play with kids, teach, counsel, or climb a mountain. I think just biologically we (as women) are attracted to people who show signs of being good providers and protector, and ebfore the age of cars and computers, outward physical health was a good indicator of that. Am I making sense? hahaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com